Only a few weeks to go ....

With only a few weeks to go, I find myself getting into that mama bear mode. Seriously. I remember how I felt after Amélie was born and I remember being guilted into having visitors at the hospital. That won't happen. Sorry friends and family :(. I had spiraled into a post partum depression that left both Corey and I (and many of you guys I'm sure) exhausted and bitter. Regardless of how this birth goes, we hope to let all our family know very shortly after the birth (starting with the grandparents ... don't worry if you don't have facebook or Internet we will be calling you ;-). You won't miss out on the big news!! You can even post it on Facebook!! But please ... don't ask when you can visit. That will have to wait until we get home. Point Final. (that means there is no negotiating this ... fyi)

Now I know many people have offered to watch Amélie and that is very sweet and thoughtful, but we have someone lined up. Someone very close by that Amélie sees often and is as protective as I am (I am her daughter after all). Having Amelie far away from me is going to be hard regardless of what I'm doing and it'll help me relax if I know she's at home with a person she feels most comfortable with other than me and Corey. (I will blog about sleepovers on another post.) If for some reason we can't be home and mom needs to be away we know that all of you are willing and able, but remember ... we are looking for someone to stay at OUR house with her.

When we get home, depending on how things go etc ... etc ... depending on when baby Linfitt decides to be born (I say the 28th of April ... it's the full moon and the due date) but he/she could be late (I doubt early it IS a Linfitt baby) we will be planning Amélie's birthday. It will all depend on the the baby, but we will definitely have a birthday for her :)

To summarize, sit tight ... it's not your baby, it's not your birth, you have no say in the matter and what happens in those precious days after baby is born will affect us all forever. If I say no ... don't ask again I will probably snap ... don't try and convince me that something is best or that I will benefit from something that I don't want to do ... all you'll get is snapped at (possibly) and long term resentment if I don't feel emotionally strong enough to stand up for myself and you will probably get hurt feelings and then tension ... you know how this is going to end ;-). I don't think it's being a bitch to ask these extremely reasonable things. In some cultures a mother stays in her hut for nearly 6 weeks before anyone is allowed to see her. Cats are constantly moving their kittens when they get too many people in their faces touching their newborns. For all I know I will come home and be ready to meet the world! But let's play it like I am coming home a whole new person with a new addition to the family, a toddler and a probably very tired hubby. Seriously ... it's not like we're going to wait until the baby's 1st birthday before you even know it's born ... yeesh ... Christmas comes before that :-P